Dear Sumit

I started writing this as a comment to your recent post - 'There's No Such Place As Far Away', but I kept writing and realized that this was better off on my blog!

So here goes. As always you write so well and from the heart. Strangely I've never read any of Richard Bach's books except Jonathan Livingston Seagull (a personal favorite of my husband's). But I've always preserved quotes from him. I had this one stuck on the soft board on my bedroom for a long time: You are never given a dream without being given the power to make it come true!

For years I dreamed of finding my soulmate (don't we all?). In the process of this search I've fallen in love many times over, each time thinking, 'Ah, I've found the ONE' (turned out there was more than one!!!). It was finally at age 41 that I met my soul mate - my husband. 'Oh Lord,' I can hear you say, 'do I have to wait so long?'. Your journey needn't be as mine and hopefully if you can learn something from my journey, it will make it all the more worthwhile.

Some questions you might ask -
Did I make many mistakes in this journey? YES.
Did I get in to some weird relationships? YES (although they seemed alright at the time).
Do I have regrets about the loving, the losing and the pain? NO.

No regrets, because every time I learned something....and at the end of the journey I learned one truth and that's what I'd like to share with you. Love does not take long to come to us...it's we that take a long time to come to Love. What do I mean by that?

I mean that most often we think that we have to 'find' Love and start looking for it in other people. The truth is that until we love ourselves and accept ourselves, we'll never find that Love. To quote Richard Bach: 'Until you make room in your life for someone as important to you as yourself, you will always be searching and lost'.

For a long time I 'loved' people who didn't feel the same way about me, were not ready to commit, found me too strong, too fat, too attached to my family..........Why was Love eluding me I wondered. I thought I had a problem - and I did. To quote Bach again: If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem. The moment I stopped looking for Love and started focusing on myself and my own happiness, I 'found' Love. It was waiting to be found - within me! The irony is when I realised that I didn't have to depend on someone else to make me happy, I found someone who I was happy to be with and who was happy to be with me.

So Sumit, I hope I haven't confused you and lectured too much - I didn't mean to. All I want you to know is to let go and just be who you are - Love will come. Enjoy your relationship with your 'friend' and be the best friend you can be to YOU.

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Love is living together for 45 years with its ups and downs and yet caring deeply for one another.

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This amazing feeling called love.

Love. It is something I live on day and night. It's like oxygen. It is oxygen.

Sat to write for "Love is all you need" today, finally, when I'm high on lack of sleep, when my eyes are swollen with last night's tears and I'm waiting for his call because he wanted to "talk in detail" about my behavior. Oh, I smiled for the first time since morning right now as I typed 'talk in detail'. You see.. he sounded very scary and really pissed last night and said "I won't let you get away with it this time, we'll talk in detail about this tomorrow, sleep now." and I shivered. But then, I woke up to his messages - "I love you, give me a kiss my vuvuzela"

From 2 nights ago:

Him - I'm sure you read about them being annoying and never noticed otherwise during the match.. :p

Me - Nooo, I noticed the sound the first day only! I didn't know it was called a Vuvuzela but I found the sound very annoying!

Him - Say it again na..

Me - What?? *and then I realised what. He loves it when I mispronounce a word and makes me repeat it* Noooo..!!! hahaha...vuvuzela ~

Him - Vooovooozela doll! I love you so much...*kisskisskisss* you sound so cute baby.

and then I said Vuvuzela 4 times.


Anyway. I am in a long distance relationship, it's been 5 and a half years since we are together. One year since he held my hand, since we kissed, since I saw him off. I still remember the expression on his face, he was trying to be a strong for me but looked so helpless and sad and promised me we'll be together soon. I said bye with tears in my eyes, he kissed my forehead quickly and gave me a look that said "Don't cry or I'll cry now".

6 years since we've been best friends. Though the years seem long to others, they just flew by for me even though we met all of 7 times. But those very few moments are enough to keep us hooked to each other for a lifetime. You don't find the perfect-fit every day, right? And when you do, you don't let it go, you don't give up on it just because you have to wait for a long time to be together. People wonder if I am crazy to be waiting since so long. Sometimes they doubt if these two will ever be together. But I just smile because I know that the people who think I'm screwing my life have never been in love, that kind of love, my kind of love -- ever trusting, ever hoping & forever waiting with dreams in my eyes. And I go on with the blind faith I have in love, in God, in him.

♥

♪ Every night in my dream I see you. I feel you...that is how I know you go on
Far across the distance and spaces between us..you have come to show you go on.
Near, far .. wherever you are..I believe that the heart does go on.
Love can touch us one time and last for a lifetime
And never go till we're one..
Love was when I loved you
One true time I hold to
In my life we'll always go on

You're here, there's nothing I fear,
And I know that my heart will go on
We'll stay forever this way
You are safe in my heart and my heart will go on and on ♪

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After:the first day in school,
my first class teacher in Nursery,
the first lunch break with a handkerchief tightly stuck to my dress,
the first best friend to share tiffin with,
the initial fighting over crayons,
slowly making friends with a smile,
growing up under the shades of the school trees and classrooms,
inter school competitions,
fights with friends,
peer pressure,
patching up friendships,
loosing out on our best friends- or so we thought,
finding new ones,
exams,
birthday treats,
canteens,
photographs and memories,
Boards,
and after 12 years of school... I get tagged on facebook in this photograph by a friend..
And realized where all of us started from.

It's not the end, it's the beginning that nurtures love.. It's those kids with lil dresses and half pants that start the Love. It's those kids who are -- We.

-Nil. :)

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